When You Are Exhausted, Make Time For Nothing

Guest post by Martha Beck

IF YOU HAVE ONE MINUTE…

Go limp. Settle into the most comfortable position possible. Inhale deeply, hold your breath a second or two, then relax your body — especially the muscles in your face — as you exhale. Become aware of any physical sensation you’re feeling. Your body will repay the gift of oxygen and relaxation by becoming calmer and more energetic.

IF YOU HAVE FIVE MINUTES…

Forget everything. Jot down a quick to-do list, and let it be your “task memory” so you can let your mind roam free, like a toddler exploring a room. Patiently and non-judgementally, watch where you mind goes, and what it says. Then go back to your to-do list. You’ll find that you feel as if you’ve had a brief but refreshing vacation.

IF YOU HAVE AN HOUR…

Find a reason to laugh. Read a funny book; call your silliest friend. If you’re too stressed or sad to laugh, let yourself cry. Both behaviours release physical and emotional tension, connecting your mind, body, and circumstances. Laughter, in particular, has been shown to improve immune function, strengthen relationships, and brighten your mood in almost any situation.

IF YOU HAVE A FREE AFTERNOON…

Disappear. Don’t call on the people you “should” visit. Don’t do the cleaning project that would make you the perfect homemaker. There will be time later for doing; this afternoon is for being. Roam your favourite places: shops, libraries, parks, country roads. Drink in all the beauty you find. Tell no one.

IF YOU HAVE A WHOLE DAY…

Live it on purpose. Start by reminding yourself what you want your life to mean. Take one small step in the service of your purpose. Then give yourself a gift (a wind chime, a lipstick, a dance to your favourite song). This will remind you that receiving and giving are inseparable and put you in the zone where you simultaneously forget your ego and remember who you really are.